Podcast Ep 60: "I am so controlling of my partner but I don't know how to stop. Help!"

 
 

If you experience relationship anxiety, you might be familiar with the urge to try to change your partner so that you can feel better about your decision to be with them, and stop doubting the relationship so much! You’re not alone. It can be so hard to change this pattern, but I believe it can be done with some determination, patience, and humility. This episode can help you trust your partner (and your decisions) more, restore intimacy and closeness, and start moving you in the direction of the relationship you desire.

-SUPER exciting: join me on Patreon! We will meet monthly for a hangout and Q/A where I (and our ALC family) can support and hold you through the experience of navigating love through uncertainty. The first 50 patrons get permanent $5/month for all benefits of our top tier. Become a patron here.

-Email me at natalie@anxiouslovecoach.com to inquire about my retreats in Austria with my meditation teacher, Stefi Preiss, this summer.

Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

Time Stamps:

  • 5:42- Keeping your eyes on your paper and cleaning up your side of the street

  • 6:30 -Feeling like you picked the wrong partner

  • 10:00 - The three things I thought I could do to change my partner

  • 16:30 - My desire for my partner to change

  • 19:05 - Moving into the future and making empowering changes for yourself

  • 20:25 - Your partner will not change if you try to change them

  • 21:43 - Developing self-trust by overcoming adversity

  • 23:00 - Imagine your inner controller who wants to control everything

  • 24:00 - What are you afraid would happen if you stopped trying to control your partner?

  • 26:00 - Some of the different methods of control that we use to control our partners

  • 36:19 - The power of letting your partner make clean up their own messes

  • 43:04 - “I will criticize my partner when I have stopped doing XYZ”

  • 45:50 - The difference between wanting to delight you and not disappointing you

  • 50:35 - Starting the Anxious Love Coach Patreon Fam

  • 57:30 - Email me for more info on my Austria retreats in June and September