Podcast Ep 52: It’s Not Always Depression with Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW
“Emotions” like anxiety and depression are often cover emotions for deeper emotions like grief and anger – and working through our resistance to these emotions so we can arrive at our “core” emotions can help us access our calm, compassionate self. In this episode, I bring on emotions educator Hilary Jacobs Hendel, author of “It’s Not Always Depression,” to give you tangible tools for working through anxiety and depression to have a richer emotional experience.
Some extra resources:
Why Can’t I Shut Off My Mind? https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/post/2018/03/03/why-can-t-i-shut-off-my-mind
It’s Not Always Depression, Sometimes It’s Shame (NYT OpEd): https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/its-not-always-depression-sometimes-its-
It’s Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect With Your Authentic Self (Random House & Penguin UK):
Print out the Change Triangle: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/print-the-change-triangle
Facilitate Emotions Education 101 Classes with the Emotions Education 101 Turnkey Curriculum: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/ee101-train-the-trainer-course
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Hilary Jacobs Hendel @Hilaryjacobshendel
Time Stamps:
17:20- Gaining control on how your emotions are expressed in your relationship
26:40- What is the “change triangle”?
32:00- How “inhibitory” emotions such as anxiety push down core emotions
35:00- How many people use thinking to avoid feeling emotions in the body
36:45-Being able to process the grief of possible loss in your relationship
41:10- What are you experiencing in your body when you feel relationship anxiety?
48:50- Feeling the “healing emotions”
54:25- Depression as a “defense”
