Podcast Ep 42: The importance of separateness in a relationship

 
 

In this episode, I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety.

Links mentioned:

Enroll in Aliveness from Within HERE: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within

Enroll in Luci Lampe’s programs HERE: https://the-wild-awakening.teachable.com/?affcode=1051804_8anrysej

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Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

Time Stamps:

  • 3:30- The importance of creating a sense of separateness in your relationship

  • 5:45- Disclaimer on long-distance relationships.

  • 11:50- The sweet spot of separateness and togetherness during the “honeymoon phase”

  • 15:05- The cons of sinking into the “having” of each other

  • 17:00- Forgetting who you are in your relationship

  • 21:00- Deliberately creating new plots with your partner

  • 25:00- The importance of keeping a self-pleasure practice while in a relationship or not

  • 29:00- We desire partners that are desired by others

  • 36:34- The importance of being turned on by people (things too!) who are not your partner

  • 39:51- Having the mindset of being someone who isn’t defined by their relationship

  • 43:00- Experiencing separation anxiety while separated

  • 43:45- The Aliveness from Within Retreat (November 8th, 2022)

  • 52:25- Accepting separateness when you have an anxious attachment style

  • 55:40- Is it ok to not desire a sense of separateness in my relationship?