Podcast Ep 22: Self-conscious of how others view your partner? with Chelsea Horton

 
 

Have you formed an alliance with society/family/friends or with your partner? In this episode, Chelsea Horton, Relationship Anxiety Specialist and dance therapist, joins me on IG live as we explain what's really happening when we feel embarrassed by our partner's imperfections in public. We also share what you can do to feel more at ease around this, and increase the likelihood of your partner showing up in a way you feel proud of and confident around.

Please excuse the imperfect sound quality -- this was recorded on a phone!



Anxious Love Coach Collective FB group

Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy and Sheridan Ruth @Anxiouslovecoach

Chelsea Joy Horton @Healing.embodied

Time Stamps:

  • 09:25- Feeling hypervigilant regarding your partner’s flaws when you are in social settings

  • 11:30- What do people think about my choice in a partner?

  • 13:15- Proving your “worthiness” to others through your choice of partner

  • 13:35- How people-pleasing can be a form of manipulation

  • 15:30- Having a wallflower/quiet person in public as a partner

  • 16:50- Having an alliance with your partner vs having one with your partner

  • 18:00- How other peoples’ judgments have more to do with them

  • 19:30- Putting others at a choice point regarding your partner

  • 22:00- How your insecurities regarding your partner will be mirrored by your friends

  • 25:14- How to tell you are forming an alliance with society against your partner

  • 27:04- The importance of not shaming your partners in public

  • 31:15- Where could you be seeking your “worthiness” from?

  • 37:20- If it weren’t for my friends and family, would I be as critical of my partner?

  • 42:55- Tuning into your inner rebel to defeat relationship anxiety