Podcast Ep 17: Are you setting a Boundary or are you Manipulating with Mollie Birney, M.A.
This is a juicy one and very humbling. In this episode, I chat with my friend Mollie Birney, a clinical life coach, about the difference between autonomy-respecting boundaries and manipulative boundaries, how to know if you're showing up with an agenda in your boundary-setting, and what to do instead to create a culture of autonomy and safety in your relationship.
Anxious Love Coach Collective FB group
Who we are:
Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach
Mollie Birney , M.A. @mbclinicalcoaching
Time Stamps:
03:58- Boundaries vs manipulation
05:00- How boundaries are used to protect ourselves vs change others
08:30- Guilt over setting boundaries
11:00- How newer generations are establishing boundaries
13:00 - Communicating effectively when establishing boundaries
19:22 - Properly dealing with grief over unmet needs
26:30 - How your partner “shutting down” can be a form of boundary setting
29:35- Your partner shutting down is not an attack on you
34:10- Witnessing your emotions instead of being them