Podcast Ep 10: The Truth about Independence with Mollie Birney, MA

 
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A common theme with relationship anxiety is the fierce struggle for reconciliation between wanting to be independent and dependent. Tune in with my friend Mollie Birney, a clinical coach with an eye for mental health, as we dive into the truth about peoples' relationships to independence and how it can be a trauma response that blocks us from experiencing intimacy and connection.

Who we are:

Natalie Kennedy @Anxiouslovecoach

Mollie Birney , M.A. @mbclinicalcoaching

Time Stamps:

  • 08:00 - What is the difference between a therapist and a coach?

  • 10:45 - How relationship issues can beget other issues

  • 13:37 - Creative vs fear based independence

  • 15:30 - How dependence in a relationship can be healthy

  • 17:50 - The difference between “having a disorder” and the disorder “having you”

  • 18:49 - Why it’s beneficial to not make meaning out of all of your thoughts

  • 21:28 - How to work with your “inner hoe”

  • 24:53 - The dangers of “having to be independent”

  • 27:20 - What kinds of trauma might lead to wanting to be “too independent”

  • 30:00 - How adopting an identity of independence can harm you and your relationships

  • 34:55 - Readiness is not a feeling, it is a decision

  • 38:45 - What does a healthy dependence look like?

  • 43:15 - How a healthy sense of dependence can be liberating