BOTH FEET IN

The program has already started, but it’s not too late to join. All sessions are recorded and you can take your time catching up while getting support from us and our intimate group immediately.

A 6-month women's cocoon to process and release the stickiness around your heart, pull your other foot out the door, and trust yourself in relationships

I’m gonna lay it all on the table here...

Relationship anxiety is pretty taboo to talk about.

If you say out loud you’re having doubts in your relationship, society and peers are quick to tell you that you must be doing something wrong. That maybe you should leave and not string the poor guy/gal along. 

And heck, I’m not here to convince you that you shouldn’t if that’s what you want.

But I have a hunch that’s not why you’re here.

You’re here because you’ve got an amazing partner. Someone that sees your brilliance and your beautiful raw heart -- and just wants to love you. 

And yet… you can’t seem to pull your foot out the door. 

It would feel liberating to be able to surrender and trust your decision to stay, without worrying you’re making a mistake, that you’re settling, or that you’ll find in 20 years this commitment was a huge mistake and you wasted all this time.

Hi, I’m Natalie, and I almost left my beloved Preston because I spent 7/10 of our years together wondering if I loved him enough, whether he was “The One,” or whether this relationship was “right.” I (eek) tried guilting and manipulating him into being a person he wasn’t so that I could attempt to create the perfect relationship.

I felt “the ick” whenever my partner openly adored me but I also didn’t wanna leave (which led me to believe I was the worst partner EVER!!!! or that I must’ve just been too scared to be alone.).

I could not handle any possibility of it being the wrong one. So I single-handedly took something beautiful and unconsciously almost destroyed it.

I was teaching yoga and mindfulness, but behind the scenes, I was an anxious wreck -- and my overthinking brain latched onto the area of my life where I had the most to lose: my relationship.

We overthink because we care.

We nitpick because we’re afraid if we don’t, our partners won’t be the people we want them to be and that we’ll have made a mistake.

We push away because we’re terrified to be deeply, deeply seen, and witnessed.

Just for a second, let’s consider that your doubts have nothing to do with your beautiful partner, and everything to do with unprocessed emotions, unaddressed and outdated belief systems on love, and a lack of self-trust within yourself.

Beliefs are like snow chains -- empowering for an icy, cold road, but not for a smooth, steady freeway...

You’re not a bad driver. Your car isn’t broken. You’re wearing snow chains on a road with no snow. You need to slow down, pull over, see the snow chains, take them off, and trust your car can drive again, smoothly, without snow chains on.

If you’ve got a devoted lover in front of you, and you believe you’re not worthy of deep love....  the road ahead is going to be bumpy, darling.

On the other side of relationship anxiety is a relationship where the better it gets, the better it gets. You get triggered less. You appreciate more. Your partner is weirdly fascinated by you and gives you loads of adoring attention without you having to guilt them or even ask for it. You act like a drama queen and are unapologetic about it. You know how to sit quietly and drink in the delicate nature of a flower. How to shake the world with your grief and your rage. You are wild in partnership. Safe and free. Embodied and wise.

If you’re ready to clear out your old beliefs and pains around love and intimacy, create closure from unresolved past relationships, and start making confident decisions in your relationship (and life) — Both Feet In is for you.

(that’s $47 per 2-hour call)

or

How our group coaching program works:

Both Feet In is our 6-month group cocoon to become a confident, deeply feeling woman in partnership.

My co-coach and co-meditation teacher, Sheridan Ruth, and I intend to teach you the very tools we used to overcome our own experiences with relationship anxiety.

I am using this program to create a new online course while also coaching you through the concepts I will be teaching in the lectures.

Each month has 6 calls: 3 embodiment/meditations with Sheridan, 2 lectures and a coaching call with me. Everything will be recorded and there will be plenty of time for you to integrate these concepts and practice the techniques we teach you with others in the program. And yes, there will also be plenty of opportunities for sharing and hotseat coaching.

Many of these meditations are collaborative: which means we will be teaching you techniques to partner up with others in the program and be spaceholders for one another’s inner processes. The WITNESSING and BEING WITNESSED components are some of the most transformative pieces to this work.

The lectures will be uploaded to Teachable into course format, which you will have lifetime access to.

As a bonus (!!!!!!), you will have access to an exclusive link to book 1:1 sessions with either of us ($300/hr for Natalie, $200/hr for Sheridan) for 6 months. WE NEVER OFFER THIS! Working with us 1:1 is always a package deal, but we want you to be able to get extra support with us if you need it. :-)

What you get in this program:

This 6-month journey includes:

• 36 total calls (6 per month) — please view the breakdown below

• Access to booking 1:1 sessions a la carte with Sheridan ($200/hr) and Natalie ($300/hr) for 6 months

Schedule:

PLEASE READ THIS BEFORE LOOKING AT THE SCHEDULE:

1) We meet via Zoom 6 times per month for 6 months.

2) This program is centered around our menstrual cycles, which means 2 things: A) We all take a week off every month (to rest, recharge, catch-up, meet with others) and B) In the occasion a call falls on day 1 or 2 of mine or Sheridan’s moons, we will be rescheduling to later that week. This time is for rejuvenation— and the most incredible, creative, intuitive downloads happen for us during this time, so we are choosing to make this a priority and shift the paradigm around running a feminine-centered business. We encourage you to take this into consideration in your own life also!

3) As for the 6 calls breakdown: There are 3 Tuesday calls with Sheridan doing embodiment and meditation work. There are 2 Thursday calls with Natalie for lectures (these will be uploaded into course format) and 1 Saturday call with Natalie for Q/A and coaching. The specific calendar will be sent to you upon enrollment, but all 6 calls are intended to land on these days of the week:

Tuesdays 2pm PST

Thursdays 2pm PST

Saturdays 2pm PST

Each meeting lasts 90 minutes to 2 hours. All recorded of course :) Try your best to attend the live coaching and embodiment sessions at minimum.

Curriculum:

Module 1: Birds Eye View 

Take inventory of stressors and transitions in your life contributing to the experience of anxiety, so you can consciously choose how to re-prioritize how you’ll be spending your time and energy in this program.

Module 2: The Art of Awareness 

Get laser clear at identifying what’s really going on inside -- so you can set the stage to alchemize it into artistic expression, using it as a tool to heal old repressed emotions.

Module 3: Life Story

Take inventory of the experiences you’ve been through, helping you erupt compassion for yourself and observe your outdated belief systems with love and a little push… to make space for new, empowering ones.

Module 4: Re-writing history

Learn how to take a painful memory (and the belief you absorbed as a result) and use your imagination to heal and re-create a new experience of that memory so it no longer holds power over you, releasing triggers one by one as they arise… so that you can embrace possibilities of love and trust instead of cowering in the memories of fear.

Module 5: Parts Work

Learn how to speak to and disarm anxiety without ignoring it or shaming it (two approaches that make anxiety stronger), and drop into tender, vulnerable emotions hidden underneath in a safe way.

Module 6: Projections, Transitions, and Change

What if your terrifying thoughts about your partner’s “not-enoughness” was really about you and not them? Learn to identify a projection and stop it in its tracks, as you bring your attention back to your own needs and inner experience.

Module 7: Nonviolent Communication

Learn to express your needs in a way that feels empowering and safe for you to give and for your partner to receive, and strengthen the likelihood your partner will naturally desire to meet them for you.

Module 8: Loving the Shadow

Notice your shadow aspects that show up in relationship: the needy little girl, the bitch, the endless rage, the slut, the brat, the narcissist, your spiritual ego, the manipulator... etc. Learn to love them. Knowing and owning all of yourself will set you free.

Module 9: Attachment Styles

Learn the different types of attachment styles and how they’re formed, and the medicinal inner and outer practices to move towards secure attachment.

Module 10: Masculine/Feminine Polarity: The Art of Drama

Take Nonviolent Communication up a notch and learn to use your body and your soft vulnerable heart as a vehicle to express your deepest needs to your partner -- so that you can embrace your inner drama queen and evoke your partner’s desire to gift you their reverence and attention.

Module 11: Parts Work - The Outer Piece

Many beliefs we develop about love were unconsciously handed to us without our consent. Learn how to dialogue with those that handed them to you, create resolve and forgiveness -- just for you… so that you can move forward with your own empowering narrative about yourself and your relationship.

Module 12: The Sensual Bad Bitch

Embody new sides of yourself that you don’t share with the world. Discover what it means to be alive without relying on your partner to turn you on, and take full accountability for your pleasure.

Why work with us?

We don’t take a textbook or clinical approach. When you work with us, you know we’re as invested in your success as you are because we’ve BEEN where you are-- following that downward spiral of doubting and obsessing and taking every thought at face value. We know what it’s like to feel suffocated by your own mind, Googling and ruminating, looking for answers. We wouldn’t be sharing this work with you confidently if we didn’t know in our bones that this work is a powerful gateway to confidence and deep, fulfilling wisdom that goes so far beyond relationship anxiety.

We draw from our extensive level of education as wellness coaches and bodywork/mindfulness practitioners, as well as from our deep wells of personal experience IN THE TRENCHES of the warrior journey that is conquering relationship anxiety.

At Anxious Love Coach, we believe that we have the power within us to rescue ourselves and own the process of being magically juicy and happy women.

There are things we’ll share with you in the intimate depths of this program that we won’t share anywhere else. When you join this program, you will be aligning with a community of women committed to finding themselves while in the context of a loving, committed partnership.

Payment options:

(that’s $47 per 2-hour call)

or

What to expect:

When you enroll, you will receive an email within 24 hours with:

• A big juicy virtual email kiss welcoming you to the beginning of something very, very special we’re co-creating!

• A calendar with the schedule for the next 6 months

• Some first steps to prepare for the container in February

Links to the zoom calls will be delivered a few days before the program's start date.

Testimonials from our past group programs:

FAQs:

Q: What techniques do you use in this program?

A: We pull from a mix of what’s worked in our personal experience as well as from our coaching, mindfulness, and embodiment training backgrounds. 

Our approaches use a combination of shadow work, inner child work, mindfulness and somatic processing techniques as taught under the lineage of Stefi Preiss, Christian Meyer and Eli Jaxon-Bear. We draw from Nonviolent Communication education by Marshall Rosenburg, polarity concepts inspired by David Deida, John Wineland, and Madelyn Moon, and the Change Triangle by Hilary Jacobs Hendel. Other teachers we’re inspired by: Teal Swan, Eckhart Tolle, Sheryl Paul, Chelsea Horton, Peter Levine, and Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk.

Q: do i need to be in a relationship to be in this program?

A: The work is, first and foremost, for you. A lot of this work is owning your shadow and therefore shifting how YOU show up, and evoking changes in your partner without their conscious knowing. If you are single, this work will help you clear out gunk and prepare you for your next relationship. It will also give you tools that will help you make decisions in dating. We believe everyone needs to know this information — in relationship or not.

Q: i can’t attend all the sessions. will i miss out?

A: Try to attend as many as you can. It’s not a problem to miss a bunch of sessions, but it’s not ideal, either. Thanks to the lengthy nature of this program, there will be a lot of repetition to allow for digestion of these concepts. Try to attend at least half the sessions live, as the energy in the moment is so exquisite and you’ll be able to work with others for many of them. If not, watch the recordings during your week off (the last week of the month).

Q: can men join this program?

A: Much of the work will be partnering women up with other women and doing embodiment-based work. Due to the vulnerable and sensitive nature of these practices, we have chosen to have a women-only container to keep the number of variables low and therefore create safety in a way we feel confident doing. At the moment Natalie’s 6-month 1:1 is open to men.

Q: Is this program refundable?

A: Commitment is scary, and we would like you to take the first step to overcome that fear -- when you’re in, you’re in, baby. You may request a full refund up to 48 hours prior to the first call.

If you are using a payment plan, you are obligated to pay each month.

Q: How many women will be in this program?

A: We anticipate 30-50, however, we are trusting whatever number the universe calls in, there is no cap :) We are ready to serve.

Q: How do i know this program is for me?

A: Truly, you never know anything for sure, just like you never quite know where your relationships will land. An investment, whether it be in relationship or in a program like this, is always a risk. The same voice that questions your relationship, trying to protect you from disappointment and heartbreak, will often show up here, too. We invite you to question the black-and-white thinking of “this will either help me OR it won’t” and try this sentence on for size: “I am always expanding and learning, whether I am aware of it or not.” Also — the clients that do well in our programs are usually the ones that show up consistently and do the work. There is no program that will do the work for you. That said — if what we’re saying resonates with you, and you’re in a safe partnership or desiring to be able to enjoy one, what we’ve shared with you barely scratches the surface. We promise the approaches we use will be in alignment with what we’ve already shared on this page.

Q: How do i know for sure i actually have relationship anxiety, or if i just need to leave?

A: This sounds a lot like a question relationship anxiety would ask ;-) This isn’t a cut-and-dry answer. If you’ve got a partner that’s devoted to you, ready to commit and build a life with you, and can teach you about love, we believe it’s a partnership worth exploring as these patterns of fears of intimacy will show up no matter where you go. That said, we will point you to another question: what if you couldn’t do this wrong? What if this work still would apply to you no matter what you decide?

Q: I’m scared to do this work and find out i actually need to leave.

A: This is the number one fear people have — even above making an investment that’s a bust. We’ll also tell you this next to never happens (are you immediately thinking, “what do you mean, NEXT to never”????). There is no terrible side of you with some terrible truth or verdict. Just very activated parts of you acting out to get your attention. When you haven’t experienced a level of detachment from your thoughts before and accessed the realm of Self, every thought feels supremely true and you’re unable to trust otherwise. This work isn’t about forcing anything or discovering some terrible truth. I know it’s probably hard to believe, because the thoughts are so scary and convincing. But the healing work is actually so profound and beautiful, and it can even be fun! No matter what happens, you will be ok and ease is possible regardless of your external circumstances. Trust this.

Q: i was part of relationship anxiety alchemist already, and want more! is this more of the same or are there new concepts?

A: Lots of recurring concepts, and new ones too! We’re so excited to be able to serve more of you over the long-haul and can go deeper than we could in shorter-term containers. The beauty of 6 months is that it allows time for life transitions and for shit to hit the fan and be connected with this incredible community throughout

Q: can i join this program after it has already started?

A: Yes. The price will remain the same, and you will just need to catch up on past sessions in your own time.

Q: i can’t attend all the sessions. will i miss out?

A: Try to attend as many as you can. It’s not a problem to miss a bunch of sessions, but it’s not ideal, either. Thanks to the lengthy nature of this program, there will be a lot of repetition to allow for digestion of these concepts. Try to attend at least half the sessions live, as the energy in the moment is so exquisite and you’ll be able to work with others for many of them. If not, watch the recordings during your week off (the last week of the month).

SO… are you ready to soften the tight walls around your heart and cut the BS?

You don’t need to be single to find yourself… a deep knowing of your most profound truth sits inside your ravenous longing, my love.

Xo

Natalie and Sheridan